My dearest client Julie came to visit me at my home in Stowe last week for a Private Day Intensive. She’s been feeling trapped in a relationship of four years where she was craving deep intimacy and truthful connection.
She’s a captain for a commercial airline (how badass is that?) She totally rocks. She works with mostly men, at a job that requires her to be in her masculine the majority of the time. And if you meet her, she the sweetest, most feminine woman.
Julie has felt disappointed and alone, waking up in the middle of the night feeling the pain in her heart due to the lack of joy, fun and intimacy in her relationship.
She’s tried everything. She asked. She begged. She confronted. She pulled back. Nothing worked. She felt at a loss, she didn’t know what else to do.
During our intensive it all came to a head when she realized that she’s been numb, she’s been putting on weight to hide her pain, she kept changing the subject, getting distracted hoping that one day soon he will get it and it will all change.
And she realized she’s been doing this for the past four years and nothing changed. She had to come to terms with accepting that she’s been choosing not to hurt him instead of choosing herself.
This is what happens when we allow the Good Girl alone to run our lives. Our Good Girl will do everything for others at the expense of her own happiness and joy. She feels extremely guilty for saying no and will take all the responsibility on her shoulders, even when others are not showing up for her. And if it doesn’t work, she continues to try thinking that she might be doing something wrong…and it never ends.
This is why the Good Girl needs the Wild Woman by her side. But most times, she keeps the Wild Woman in the back closet because she’s afraid of the consequences of speaking up and making decisions based on her truth.
She’s afraid she will end up alone…and the crazy part is that she’s already feeling alone because she continues to be in relationships where she has to do all the work and others don’t show up for her in the way she needs them too, no matter what she does, no matter how hard she tries.
Can you relate to Julie’s story?
It’s scary to look the truth in the eye and admit to ourselves that the decisions that we know we need to make would affect others.
But if we don’t, we end up staying stuck in a cycle where no one benefits and we continue to perpetuate behaviors that only bring us and others down into the most disempowered version of ourselves.
From this place there’s no joy, no aliveness, no abundance, no love.
Your Wild Woman is the key for you to receive and create everything that you want. She’s the source of your feminine power and when she’s activated you will know exactly what to do, how to do it, in a way that benefits you and others. It’s a win win.
Perhaps your Wild Woman has been calling you for a while, like Julie’s. Perhaps you’ve been afraid to take your next step because of all the work you’ve been putting in that relationship, maybe it’s an intimate relationship, maybe it’s your business.
And you are exhausted of trying but afraid that if you make THE decision you will end up with nothing and all that work was for nothing. But you can’t take it anymore….
What if I told you that what’s on the other side is better than you can ever imagine, when you allow your Wild Woman to guide you? When you listen to your deepest truth and allow her to show you the how. She knows it and she’s really good at it.
I invite you to let your Wild Woman out of the back closet!
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Sending you so much wild woman love,
