Today’s’ blog is a bit longer (well, you know I usually write longer posts) but I’m going to be sharing with something that very few people talk about.
I recently had an experience where I hired someone who was supposed to deliver a project and something that would’ve taken six weeks, has now ended up taken four months.
We had an initial call where I shared what I wanted (my vision.) He seemed very excited about the project and was eager to please me. He even sent me a previous sample of his work that was very aligned with what I was intending to do and I loved it.
He agreed to include some specific details in the project that were very important to me and he also shared that he totally got it, that he’s been doing this for a long time and that the project was going to be a success.
I grew up experiencing people no showing up for me in the way I needed them to, so I definitely know that one of my tendencies is to go into control freak mode when I start a new project, a new relationship or anything like that.
Fear gets activated…what if they don’t show up for me in the way I need them to, just like it happened in my past? This is a very visceral, deep fear and I’ve been working on this for some years now…some things are rooted really deep within our unconscious.
When this person sent me the first draft, I wanted to die. Not only he missed all the details that I asked him for, he also sent me half the material he was supposed to send me.
I freaked out for a moment, then I went into full anger, then I went back into feeling disappointed and not taken cared of.
I am aware I’m talking about a project in my business yet, the reason why I’m sharing this with you is because these things happen in business too, because business is all about relationships. There’s no shame around this. I talk to a lot of women that are afraid to voice this because they feel it’s ridiculous to feel this way.
Well, I’m here to share that this is real. Your deepest fears are going to come up in any situation in your life, whether it’s personal or business because you are not a robot, you are a woman who has emotions and to feel emotions is not bad.
Now, to be taken over by your emotions can create chaos and unnecessary drama. Particularly in business, it can definitely affect you in many ways, the first being, people lose trust in you, they won’t invest in your services and your business won’t flourish.
I see so many women, and I was there too, shaming themselves for not knowing how to deal with situations that trigger them to the deepest fiber of their beings.
The tendency is to make themselves wrong for feeling what they’re feeling and/or disconnect from the situation altogether because of the lack of tools in how to deal with certain situations.
After my initial reaction I had to take a moment to come back to myself and acknowledge my emotions, the fears that were coming up to show me that my Good Girl still needed to be held with love and understood for all the times in the past when I was not considered, when my voice didn’t matter, when I felt unheard, unseen and misunderstood.
And the way I did this was calling out to my Wild Woman, giving her the center stage and allowing myself to connect with my truth and to what I was experiencing in the moment.
This is what the Wild Woman is all about: self honoring.
I had to come back to my center and realize that people do things, they don’t do it to me. I know I was specific, I know I shared everything I needed to, and still, this person chose to give me what he thought I needed, not what I wanted.
Sometimes, no matter what we do or how much we try, others will continue to have their own agenda about something and it doesn’t mean we did something wrong or that we are not enough, it means that the relationship is not in alignment with who we are.
If we don’t see this, we’ll give our power away. Continuing to try, continuing to do, continuing to put our energy out and not caring for ourselves.
I could’ve gotten caught up in reaching out many more times, convincing him that I did my best to show him, that I really needed this product and please give what was agreed upon.
But what I chose was to honor myself and spoke up truthfully and powerfully and I didn’t feel sorry about it.
I knew I was going to get what I wanted. It didn’t come from a forceful place but from a place of holding the vision and trusting that he would show up to meet me.
No drama. Just truth.
This is so powerful for us women. We learned that we don’t have the right to express ourselves. We learned to conform and not speak up. We are afraid that if we do, we will be seen as the bitch and we hold back.
Especially when it comes to dealing with men, even if it’s a business relationship, all of this will come up. We’ve been experiencing this for generations and generations.
If you are experiencing something like this in your life and you feel helpless, frustrated, lost and confused on how to deal with it, it’s a sign that your Wild Woman needs to take the center stage in your life.
Through this situation I realized that a new level of my Wild Woman is looking to emerge and I am choosing to allow it.
What about you?
If you are not sure where to begin, I invite you to join me in an experience that will support you at the highest level where your Wild Woman will be fully unleashed.
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– Access your true feminine power, so you can shake those feelings of unworthiness and own the strength and confidence you know is within you.
– Trust yourself and your decisions in every moment without needing permission from or approval of others.
– Be free from the fear and resentment from your past that has kept you stuck in patterns of self-sabotage and pain. You’ll heal energetic cords from toxic relationships that were holding you back. You’ll go from hiding to being visible and owning it.
– Feel divinely guided and experience true magic in your life. Fear of not having is gone. You’ll learn how to receive with ease and deeply trust your connection with your higher power.
– Express yourself in an empowered way. You’ll learn how to set healthy and loving boundaries and feel solid about communicating them.
– Have more fun! You will channel your inner Wild Woman and experience pleasure, beauty and play without guilt or shame.
– Feel loved and accepted for who you are in your relationships. You’ll come out of hiding because you are confident in being authentically you without apology.
– Shift from feeling uncertain and fearful to feeling like a whole new confident woman, owning your desires instead of denying them.
– Transform your feelings of confusion and hopelessness to clarity about your needs and desires. You’ll know how to express your desires fully instead of doubting if you’re worthy of them.
– Tap into your inner sexual Goddess! You’ll feel confident in your body. You’ll go from feeling disconnected and uncomfortable in your body to feeling more feminine, sexy and attractive. You’ll radiate joy and beauty from the inside out.
And so much more!
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No more shame. No more force. No more blame. No more victimhood.
Sending you so much wild woman love,
