Love is complicated.

Especially for women.

We are taught to be objects of desire.

We are taught to be rescued.

We are taught that men complete us.

Movies and fairy tales told us to wait patiently and passively in a tower for our other half. One day our prince charming would save us from our evil stepmother.

Then we would be whole! Our life would be full of magic, glass slippers, horse-drawn carriages and glittering ball gowns. Once we were rescued, we could live the rest of our days in love as an adored princess.

I can’t tell you how many women come to me with this subconscious belief about themselves and love.

Let me tell you, subjecting the men we love to this unrealistic expectation isn’t just emasculating… It strips us of our power. It kills love.

I remember this happened at the beginning of my relationship with my now husband, Rob. When I first met Rob, I was looking to feel complete.  While I was on my way to becoming an Empowered Woman, I was still very much stuck in the role of the Good Girl.

So, when I met Rob I did what any Good Girl would do, I poured all my energy and power into Rob…

When I saw Rob struggling I would take on his issues and make them my own.

I sacrificed for him. Rob was going through a career transition and wasn’t working full-time.

In turn, I felt subconscious about making money, and found myself shrinking back from opportunities that would benefit me financially because I didn’t want to make him feel bad as a man.

Now, to be clear, Rob didn’t ask for me to give all my power away. I did it willingly and freely.

My inability to step into my power AND be in love hurt Rob.

It made me resentful.

And it could have ended us.

Through time, and studying the power of the feminine, I grew to understand that my power has nothing to do with a knight in shining armor.

It had to do with bringing my Good Girl in balance with my Wild Woman. Sacrificing at our own expense is a Victim energy. This doesn’t serve us as women and take us out of our power.

Balancing my Good Girl and Wild Woman was the key to become empowered.

Owning our power is what completes us.

Understanding what it means to love a person and still be in your power is what has given me a love with Rob I never thought possible. I am forever grateful for this lesson.

Many of us women fall into giving our power away in the name of love, thinking that we need to be all things to all people and that we need to work really hard for what we want.

Today, I encourage you to stop waiting for someone to give you power.

Remember, your power has always been with you, and nothing external (not a man, a job, your family or a circumstance) could give it to you or take it away.

I would love to hear from you.

How do you give your power away in your life?

Have you ever been misled by the idea of Prince Charming?

How are you going to move forward with being powerful and choosing love?

Sending you love and light,

P.S. If the story above resonates with you and you desire to be in your power authentically when it comes to love, you require to ignite your Wild Woman. The first step is taking action. Don’t blame men or society. Don’t call all of your friends asking what you need to do. Stop reading blog posts looking for a magic solution. Just get started.

Go for a walk, go to yoga, talk to one potential client or attend an event like The Empowered Woman Retreat: The Wild Woman Experience and meet women like you who are bravely stepping into their power. You’ll be surprised by how life-changing it can be to meet soul sisters on the same journey.

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