Gathering with family can be tricky around the Holidays. There are many things that come up for people emotionally around this time, and most of them are not usually expressed.
And I share this because we also come with our own “stuff” and sometimes we are not even aware of it, the Victim and the Bitch archetypes can easily get activated.
This is why I wanted to give you a quick process that I’ve developed through my years of being in this Empowered Woman journey, that will allow you to stay in a place of love, joy and honoring of yourself and you can actually allow yourself to give and receive freely, without feeling guilty, angry or disappointed.
This same process is the one I used when I visited my sisters about two weeks ago and we had the most amazing time together!
Empowered Woman Process for a joyful and loving Thanksgiving
Step #1: Set your intention
Your Good Girl loves this! When you set an intention you become an active participant of what you want to happen. You feel empowered because you get to co-create with life. For example, ‘My intention is to be open, loving and compassionate starting with myself.’ Or, another intention could be, ‘My intention is to be pure joy, be and see love in every situation. To be present and be myself fully, as I allow others to do the same.’ You’ll be amazed at how by doing this, you can actually create magic.
Step #2: Create healthy boundaries
Setting boundaries is truly an art (and something that the Wild Woman is an expert at…), so I get it, if you knew how to do it, you probably would’ve done it already. Here’s what I would suggest that will help you for now: Be present on how you feel, your energy, what you need at every given moment. When someone says or does something, notice how your body feels, how it reacts, do you get triggered, do you care or you don’t? What’s happening within you? You don’t have to do anything about it, for now just be the observer!
Step #3: Be in full acceptance
This is where your Empowered Woman thrives. Here’s where I’m going to ask you to stretch a bit because here’s the truth: everyone does the best they can with what they have. Sometimes we have expectations from others and with that expectation, we put pressure on them and on ourselves as well. But what if you could just allow others to be and do what they want and you knew you had the choice to take it or not? What if you can just drop the expectations, the judgments and know that everything you need is within you and you can give it to yourself? That’s empowering, isn’t’ it? So for example, if someone does something that doesn’t feel good to you, and if you feel confident perhaps you can speak up and tell them how that makes you feel or you choose to honor yourself and maybe you remove yourself from the situation until you come back to your center. This might look like going to another room, taking a walk, etc. This is empowering because as you honor yourself, you honor others.
Remember: Be patient and loving with yourself. Of course, this requires practice…don’t think that this process worked out flawless the first time for me. In fact, I created this process through all my trials and disappointments. So set your intention, follow the steps and open to having the most amazing, joyful and loving time! You deserve it <3
I’m SO excited for you to try it and I’d love for you to share with me how it went by replying to this email.
Sending you so much love and Happy Thanksgiving!
PS: Through the process that I shared above I’ve helped hundreds of my coaching clients navigate their relationships, where we go deeper into what comes up for them when they get triggered and where is coming from. I guide them to come back to a place where they feel whole, empowered and loving to themselves and their loved ones, with grace, love, and ease. This is what it means to enjoy empowered relationships in your life!
If you are reading this, I know you are a woman who is committed to your evolution, growth and love even when (especially when) it’s not easy.
And if you’d like to break free from the cycle of feeling disempowered in your relationships once and for all this Holiday Season, and claim depth, fun and intimacy instead, then I invite you to jump on a quick call with me.
On this call, we will explore where you are trapped and stuck when it comes to your relationships and what you require to transform in order to step into your next level in all of your relationships.
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